Managers & Overwhelm

Every manager I talk with these days is overwhelmed. It is the most common feeling I hear about. Too much work. Too little resources. Too little time. Feeling overwhelm for most of us shuts us down. This feeling actually makes us less productive. In the very moment when we say we want to be more…

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Performance is NOT an Opinion

The most valuable practice you can develop as a leader, when dealing with difficult employees, is to focus on facts, not opinions. Notice what they DO or DON’T do, rather than the labels (lazy, rude, argumentative, know-it-all, etc.) you assign for their behavior. Practice today just noticing WHAT you observe rather than thinking you know…

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Justification

We often think we have to justify our anger or frustration. We think we need other people to know WHY we feel the way we do. Which of course means we want them to know how they or someone else caused our pain. And how they need to change to make us feel better. But…

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Join Me at The Beach?

 Every year, I offer an intimate, exclusive coaching intensive on-the-beach for the women in my community. It’s call ‘She is Relentless’. To say the work we do together is powerful; while sitting on the beach, under the pines, on the nature preserve that surrounds the Turtle Bay Resort, is such an understatement. Some have gone so…

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Do You Believe in Yourself?

Things happen everyday that we cannot control. We believe that many of those things rattle us. I learned some time ago that it isn’t the circumstance that creates our experience. It is our thinking about the circumstance that designs the experience we have with it. I see this in my clients day-after-day. My employee doesn’t…

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Uber.

Uber is a hot mess. And the CEO is the crux of the problems. The good news is, he released a statement indicating he wants a leadership coach. Awesome. The best news will be if he takes willful action and changes his behavior. THAT remains to be seen. Here’s what Uber and its CEO are…

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A Video Blog

Hi Kris, This week I thought I’d share a video blog for a change! I’m working on videos for my upcoming “The Core for Leaders” membership program and figured I’d try out a few video blogs as well… Would love your thoughts! And please feel free to share with your teammates and colleagues! A quick…

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Here’s an Idea: Setting Expectations

My upcoming podcast is about Setting Expectations, so I thought I’d offer some included and additional highlights here. There are many valuable reasons WHY leaders should set clear expectations with team members. Clearly set AND COMMUNICATED expectations allow for: Less confusion on the team More engagement Better communication Stronger culture of accountability Higher performance Stronger…

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Deciding to Decide

I’m struggling with a decision right now. I’m actively not deciding and it’s driving me nuts. I do prefer a decision made, rather than living with one unsettled. As leaders who run businesses, we are called to make many decisions. And there are always a few that are difficult to make. As I think about…

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The Perfection Response

Perfection stifles growth. If perfection could speak it would say: “Don’t do it wrong” “Don’t embarrass yourself” “Everyone will know if you make a mistake” “We cannot make errors” “Our mistakes define us” “There is a right way and a wrong way to do this and you aren’t doing it right”   As long as…

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Manager Coaching

As a part of our ongoing discussion about key strategies for successful managers, I’d like to chat about Manager Coaching: I know. You hear about it all the time. Coach your people. Are you coaching? How well do you coach your team? You know, you really do need to coach more…. So what the heck…

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Measuring Performance

  Every position in your organization exists to do something for the organization. Therefore, every role in your organization should have measures to evaluate its contribution to the organization. Please note, I’m referring to ROLES or POSITIONS not individuals or people. Individual performance will be discussed in the next installment about Coaching. Things to think…

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Motivation and Engagement

  If there’s a buzz word today, its ‘engagement’. Gallup’s work here is pretty tremendous and pretty astounding. Less than 30% of our work force is actually engaged. What-the-heck? How do we fix it? Here’s what won’t fix it: Jeans on Friday A Keurig in the break room Certificates or ‘rocks’ to celebrate awesomeness What…

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Leading Teams through Change

Change happens every day. Our work is not static. We have to stop believing that things should stay the same. We have to stop expecting things to be consistent. A vital role as leaders today, is to move our teams, effectively through change. When we join our team in commiserating, complaining and moaning about change; we aren’t leading. It…

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What Breaks Your Heart?

I watched this quick video last week and found it incredibly powerful. Asking this question can help direct our energy (for ourselves and our organization). Understanding THAT thing that breaks your heart, knowing your compelling reason to do what you do… it’s the secret sauce. I thought about it. What breaks my heart? Knowing that…

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Stop It

Stop it. Stop waiting for other people to make decisions before you decide your own future. Example: “I need to wait and see if I’m going to get that promotion and then I’ll decide what to do.” Decide: do you want the promotion? If so, why? What will the promotion in this company bring you…

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Dear Leadership…

Dear Leadership, I’m hoping we can just chat for a minute. I can tell you’re terribly confused and I don’t blame you. It’s been a tough go these past few… well… centuries. We’ve done our best to confuse you, haven’t we Leadership? We’ve wanted you to be so many things. We’ve wanted you to be…

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Leading yourSELF

I listened to this podcast yesterday during two car trips. All I can say is that it is excellent. The host, Joe Polish and the guest author Adam Markel fill the podcast with incredible insights on Leading yourSELF. Markel recently published a book, Pivot: The Art and Science of Reinventing Your Career and Life, and…

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Empathy Not Information

This video is so incredibly powerful. It’s short and yes, you do have to subscribe to watch it… but do it. Hank Fortener delivers incredibly powerful insight about how to deal with difficult people. He attributes his biggest failures to his avoidance of difficult conversations. And my favorite quote: “Nobody changes their mind about you…

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Procrastination

Today . . . I’m sharing thoughts and resources about procrastination. How appropriate that this video by Tim Urban should appear in my FB newsfeed – Inside the mind of a master procrastinator! Watch it. It’s amazing and funny and will likely connect with you, in some way. I’ve been reflecting on my own procrastination. He…

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Think About This: Expectations

Recent events in my personal life have, once again, reminded me of the importance of clearly established expectations… Especially if you are in a leadership role. We are all culprits of not setting clear expectations from time-to-time. It’s inevitable. BUT if you lead others, your clarity and communication regarding your expectations is vital. When we aren’t clear,…

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Think About This: Change

Lately, I’ve been working with quite a few clients on dealing with, managing, going through various types of change. One thing that strikes me as so interesting is how surprised we are (as humans) when we encounter change.  It’s fascinating, right? Everything is always changing and yet, when we encounter change we act surprised. As if…

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Figuring Out What’s Next

If I’ve heard one common comment from friends and colleagues over the past year it’s been  “I’m figuring out what’s next”… Although that seems like such a benign little comment, it isn’t. For many of us, figuring out what’s next has meant so much more: It’s meant losing something we thought we’d keep forever. It…

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Is There a Right Leadership Style?

Written by Chad Bandy chad.bandy@ymail.com The workplace today demands different styles and personalities for vastly different leadership challenges.   Transformational leaders are needed to take a team or company in a new direction all the while attempting to survive the turmoil and controversy they create to make change happen.  Transitional leaders can be short-term; knowing they…

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