I am a perfectionist.
I hear this all the time.
I’m always curious what that really means.
What is perfection anyway?
If you are a self-proclaimed perfectionist, I have some questions for you.
Think about something you are currently working on that needs to be ‘perfect’ before you are done.
Define what perfection looks like.
Be as specific as you can.
Now, ask yourself what will happen if you don’t achieve that level of perfection.
My guess is your answer may sound something like any of these:
I will look bad.
I will let others down.
People will think (I’m sloppy, lazy, don’t work hard… etc).
And then answer this… especially if you lead others (this goes for parents too).
- How am I not allowing others to grow, because I believe the work needs to be perfect?
- How am I hoarding assignments, projects, commitments, etc. because I believe they need to be done perfectly? And in order to be done perfectly, they must be done by me.
- How does my need for things to be perfect alienate others?
- Does my desire for perfection draw others to me or create insecurity in others?
- How well do I delegate and share responsibility, if I’m feeding my need for perfection?
What would your day-to-day life be like without the constant strain of perfection?
What if you make a mistake?
Really… so what? Go there. Ask yourself. Experience it.
You’re trying so hard to avoid the pain that comes with failing and yet you are missing the joy of doing.
I admire Brene Brown and her insights so much! Here are three of her awesome quotes about perfection!
Now, go have a fun, messy, non-perfect day!!! My guess is everything will be alright!