How to Lead

Ep #119: How to NOT Get Offended

Have you noticed that when people feel offended, they’re often offensive in response? That’s not effective, and it’s certainly not leadership. When you have the positional authority in a relationship, it’s incumbent upon you to be the one who is cautious and thoughtful about the words you use. Here’s how: What you’ll learn from this…

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Ep #92: Managerial Courage

Courage, from the root word “cor” or “heart” is to speak the truth of what’s in your heart. Our inability to tap that courage, because we may be vulnerable if we do, limits our capability as leaders. What you’ll learn from this episode: We have many opportunities to step into our leadership role and speak…

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Ep #61: Managers and Change

Like it or not, we’re in a space and time where so much is transient. As a manager, it’s your job to not only manage the process of change but also lead people through that change. Here are some suggestions for how to do that. What you’ll learn from this episode: People who have been…

Stop It

Stop it. Stop waiting for other people to make decisions before you decide your own future. Example: “I need to wait and see if I’m going to get that promotion and then I’ll decide what to do.” Decide: do you want the promotion? If so, why? What will the promotion in this company bring you…

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Ep #54: Dealing with Big Egos

We all deal with people with big egos at one point or another, right? Do you find yourself focusing on how you can get them to change? Is that working for you? Here’s another suggestion. What you’ll learn from this episode: How much do you really care what these people think? First, try genuinely not…

How Much Deep Work Are You Doing?

I’ve been attracted to an awesome book called Deep Work, by Cal Newport. In a world where we are called upon to have multiple tasks, conversations and decisions occupying our mind at once, our ability to connect to deep work is becoming increasingly rare. But the need for us to really connect to deep work…

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Ep #53: Honest Feedback

“Honest feedback” is really just code for “I’m going to share my opinion with you and it’s probably something you’re not going to want to hear.” Here’s a suggestion for how to approach that differently so people are a little bit more likely to listen.

Wishing Things Were Different

I recently purchased Michael Singer’s book, The Surrender Experiment. While I can’t attest to the entire book (as I haven’t read it all yet), I can say that one of the opening paragraphs really resonated and echoes so much of what I talk about with my clients who are dealing with difficult. He writes: “Every day,…

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Ep #48: Burden Versus Choice

Leaders often have to do things they don’t like to do. We think we shouldn’t have to deal with things we don’t want to deal with and that what we have to deal with is outside our jobs. Here’s how changing your thinking can change what you’re feeling. What you’ll learn from this episode: How…

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Ep #47: How to Influence Difficult People

Hint – it’s not about changing the other person. People don’t change other people. Here are a couple of suggestions to help you get better results in a relationship involving a difficult person. What you’ll learn from this episode: “Difficult” is a subjective term. Influence = getting better results. Understanding their perspective instead of waiting…